07 May Love Yourself
Have you ever felt inadequate?
Like you just weren’t up to the standards of everyone else?
You feel uncomfortable in your own skin. You feel like you don’t have what it takes to make the changes your heart desires. You feel as if you could never lose weight, improve your energy, and get healthy.
There have been plenty of times in my life where I felt inadequate.
I was passed over for a captain spot my senior year on my football team for “lack of leadership”.
When in college, I had a preceptor take my paper, crumple it up, and throw it on the floor stating I was “a failure”.
I’ve learned over the years through coaching thousands of successful individuals that we have everything within us to achieve whatever we desire.
It all starts with how we view ourselves.
Whatever message you project to the world with your voice, body language, and energy is what will be received and accepted. If you see yourself as unhappy, out-of shape, and unworthy, that will be the message you send to others. That will be the perception that becomes reality.
On the flip side if you walk around with confidence, you believe that you are a high-value person, and you love yourself truly and deeply, that will shine through in everything you do.
Success will be inevitable if you see yourself as a person who succeeds.
This goes way beyond health and fitness.
I read this life changing book called Love Yourself by Kamal Ravikant (go buy 10 copies) and he spoke of the concept of loving yourself. The best sentence in the entire book was; “If you loved yourself truly and deeply, what would you do?”
That is the question I always ask myself when I am at a low to bring me back to the truth.
Others I have used are:
“If I loved myself truly and deeply, would I let myself be influenced by others?”
“If I loved myself truly and deeply, would I stop myself from achieving my goals?”
Let me tell you this does not come naturally at first.
Like working out, loving yourself is a practice that requires time under tension for growth.
You can’t try to do this one day and consider yourself done. Just like you wouldn’t do one workout and consider yourself fit.
When negative thoughts such as inadequacy start to fill your head, don’t try and eliminate them by pure will power. Instead, replace them with the loop “I love myself”. Will power will never be enough. You need to replace the negative thoughts. Start slow and build momentum over time.
I say the loop “I love myself” over and over throughout the day when I feel negative thoughts creeping in. Over time, I have seen how it has truly transformed my thoughts and my actions.
My challenge for you is to place the right labels upon yourself.
Remember, the world will accept whatever message you project.
Love yourself and never limit yourself to what you can achieve or accomplish.